Counselling is a form of talking therapy, which helps people to explore issues which they are experiencing and work towards resolving them. Often these difficulties will be between a couple, perhaps in a marriage or perhaps not. Equally, people sometimes experience difficulty with a current or past relationship in a more individual way; something which you feel unable to talk to your current partner about, or which you need help to move beyond.
The role of the counsellor is to create a safe, non-judgemental environment for open and honest discussion. Within couple work, the counsellor also acts as a dispassionate third party to facilitate difficult and sensitive conversations. Finally, a counsellor offers tools to help to resolve problems, many of which can be put into practice at home.
I use tools mostly based on a mixture of Systemic Theory and Psychodynamic Theory. Systemic Theory is the idea that our past experiences (such as previous relationships or family upbringing) shape who we are, and how we behave in our relationships.
Psychodynamic Theory suggests that there are often processes at work in our decision making which we aren't actively aware of. Understanding these unconscious drivers can help to explain the roots of problems in our relationships.
What this means in practice is that over a number of sessions we will work together to establish the root of the difficulties in your relationship, and identify ways in which I can help you to deal with the underlying cause of the problem.
Due to the personal nature of the issues which we will discuss in our sessions, everything will be treated with respect, sensitivity, and confidentiality. I am a General Member of the College Of Sexual And Relationship Therapists (COSRT), and abide by the COSRT Code of Ethics and Practice.